Wednesday, February 13, 2008

A Lot Happier than I Expected to be a Year Ago

A year ago today when I posted "One of My Best Days," a friend pulled me aside (well, as close as you can come to doing that in the cyber world) and asked if I really thought that it was all that wise to wax romantic about my wife, given what was going on then. I told him that I really didn't care if it was all that wise, it was what was on my mind, so I wrote it.

I don't bring this up to belittle Chris or his remark*, I'm really thinking of what difference a little perspective makes. I'm pretty sure that if I asked him now what he thought of that post, he wouldn't have a single misgiving about it. Now, when I wrote that post, did I have a clue that I was a few days away from having my heart stop when I received divorce papers? Nope. And on either of those days, did I have the foggiest notion, that God, in his Providence was going to restore the marriage? Nope.

But, we all know that God knew it. He is on His throne, and we are not. From the perspective of us here on this ball of dirt, the tapestry is a giant, dismal, confusing mess. But from the perspective of eternity, the tapestry is beautiful, perfect--nothing out of place.

Which means that when the going gets rough (and, we shouldn't forget--when the going is smooth) we can trust in the care of the Master Weaver--it's all going according to plan. How the Arminian/Open Theist/"Don't Label Me Anything, But I Sure Ain't No Calvinist" can rest, I'll never know.

More immediately, this means: while it's slipped a little in the ratings, February 13, 1996 is still one of my best days, and my lobster and I are celebrating an even dozen years as an official couple today. Yahoo!

Soli Deo Gloria.


* One day if I remember to, I'll write up a list of the dumbest comments made to me during that time of trial. All were well meaning, but gracious! people really need to stop and think of what they're saying...

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Concerning the note...

I'm in fear of being a part of this dumbest comment(s) lineup. ;-)

P.S: Missing you in #prosapologian

kletois

Hobster said...

Never fear my upside down friend, I don't remember any entries on that ledger for you :)

Anonymous said...

Hobs,
You found your lobster! (I didn't even have to click the link to "get" the reference)
Congratulations on 12 years, may God bless you with many more.

tucsonmom

Gary Horn said...

I'm sure I was the author.

Anonymous said...

I'm probably going to be in the list of "dumbest comments"...I always need to think before I open my mouth...something that I never do!

Anonymous said...

also congrats on 12 years. Just passed 12 weeks. Also hoping I'm not on the "dumb comments" list. So how are the 3:00 A.M. bed checks? DB

Hobster said...

Laura, DadF--you're both in the clear. In fact, with only 1 exception, everyone who reads this blog is safe.

And, I should add, the exception called off her lawyer :)

As for the 3 am bed checks, DadF? Still plugging along. You'd be surprised at the post-grad success stories I've heard lately (and more surprised at one of the failures). BTW, you're still asked about.

Been gone for months and would still rank pretty high on the "favorite employee" list. {sigh}